Sunday Thought | 4 Common Fears we CREATE
A Comfort Zone is a beautiful place, it’s rather cozy and if you’re happiest in this zone, then all the more to you! I’ll always say it and it may sound slightly repetitive, but I honestly don’t judge. If someone is happy, I wish you everything in life. I’m talking to you sexy humans in that confusing situation of being comfortable but unhappy. I’ve been there a few times and it seems like the scariest thing would be to walk out of the lines and try something new, but you’ve created those fears, you can eradicate them.
During my 90 minutes of yoga today at The Little Yoga Room in Phuket (it was my first time trying it out and it was amazing!), I thought about all the fears we create without actually being told about them. We’ve somehow managed to cook up these fears from a mixture of overthinking or listening to advice from an untrusted (most likely jealous) source.
To me, here are the 4 common fears we create:
- I won’t land on my feet if I move to another country. To those who haven’t moved abroad and are scared shitless of the aspect of finding out how people in Malaysia sit at a restaurant or open a bank account, you’re really not alone. I’ve had the most random messages from complete strangers asking me about the simplest of day-to-day tasks in foreign countries and how they differ from ‘normal’ places. Not sure how they came to think their home country is the normal one, but anyways. It’s not complicated – you will learn and adapt. Finding a job? You’ll get one, even if it takes a while. Finding out where to go if you’re ill? This post might help you, but even without it – you’ll learn. There are millions of people who live in foreign countries and a massive chunk of them live in a country with a serious language barrier, and they’re living beautifully uncomplicated lives.
- People care what I’m doing and they’re going to judge me. People care far more about themselves than they do about your life decisions. I’m not being harsh, but people care a whole lot less than you think – you’ve created this idea in your head that every move is being watched and judged. Incorrect.
- The life I want, I can’t create. I’ve been stared at when I’ve explained what I want to do with the next few years of my life. #StayTuned. It has taken up so much of my time and energy. It’s taken investment, I’ve sacrificed a lot and I’ve closed my ears to negative comments and ill wishes. Anything is possible when you set your heart and energy to it. Brilliance doesn’t happen overnight, if you REALLY want it – change your attitude or change your situation.
- I can’t give up -blank- because nothing else will come along. This could be a job or relationship; both are complete bullshit. I’ve left jobs simply because they made me feel terrible in and outside of office hours. It could’ve been a great job BUT if it doesn’t feed your happiness; say goodbye and look for another one (or start that dream business you’ve been planning for years!). I can’t understand why people hold onto jobs and careers like there are no others out there. The Internet has created this ‘anything is possible’ attitude and it’s proving right. If you had told me 4 years ago I would be making a living online from anywhere in the world, I would’ve told you to stop making me depressed because that would NEVER happen. Yeah, I was a dumb bitch. That shit happened. As for relationships, there are plenty of fish; you can be picky in deciding whom you want to swim with for life.
I’m sure there are plenty more, but these were the ones floating around my brain during my yoga class today. I’m hoping these common fears we create are simply bumps in the road to a stress-free existence. Wouldn’t that be lovely?