How to learn from your mistakes
How to learn from your mistakes… where do you begin? I’ve been home for little over 2 months and to be completely honest, this second month hasn’t been as easy as the first. The first month was A LOT of parties and fun (thank you, Ballito Pro;)), and I had told myself that once August rolled around, I would get serious about deciding what I want to do with my life. At least for the next year, let’s be real.
I never run from my problems, and I’m a realist to a fault. There was some serious soul-searching. I was getting nowhere with searching for something fresh, so I looked back at the last 5 years and decided to look into my mistakes and learn from them to shape a future I desired. This was not easy. Looking at yourself, and knowingly searching for your fuck-ups, leads to some dark hours. I’m my harshest critic and I’m incredibly hard on myself, but this was a new level of tough.
Rolling through the months brought about clarity. Initially, I wasn’t going to share this, but I thought the louder I read, the more these lessons would stick.
Keep advice from outsiders to a minimum
The people playing Devils Advocate might not always have your best interests at heart.
Stop thinking of opinions whilst making a decision
This one plagues me. I always assume I’m not thinking about what others ‘might think’ but I often find myself having a made up argument in my head with my high school teacher saying ‘I told you so’.
Don’t make life-changing decisions for someone who wouldn’t do the same for you
This is just a hard one to swallow for most, including myself – but bitch, swallow it properly.
Comparing yourself to others will get you nowhere
When I started this blog, I thought I wanted the sponsored trips and products. When it started happening, I realized it took everything away from what I loved about blogging. I then woke up to the fact that just because everyone else is doing it, doesn’t mean I have to.
Stop listening to the haters; it is possible to create your own life
Do you really think all your acquaintances want you to succeed? Jealousy is a ridiculous emotion that is seen far too often.
We have a very short amount of time on our hands
Love until you can’t breathe and never go to sleep with a ‘what if’ on the brain. I’ve passed up on countless opportunities because I feel like I’ve got time. We really don’t.
Be kind. Always.
I may preach this one a lot, but it’s so important. There’s enough hatred and anger surrounding us as it is, take a moment and appreciate the beauty and act on it. I was working out of a restaurant last month and my waiter noticed my blog on my computer screen and mentioned that his dream was to see the world. I had deadlines, but he had a genuine smile. Needless to say, I was chatting about SE Asia with a cold coffee in front of me. I’m not a saint, but I had 15 minutes to contribute.
It’s OK to fuck up
It’s easy to say you’re sorry; the hard part is smacking your own backside and actually meaning the word ‘sorry’.
I’ve made countless mistakes. I’m OK with that. I’m working on myself and I’ve come to realize that self-investment is never a waste of time. Misplaced energy is. I’ve often found that if I suck up my pride and admit to making a mistake, that misplaced energy disappears. And I feel free. Well, until my next fuck up.
What will you learn from your mistakes?
I’ve missed blogging – I’m definitely back for good.